How to Deal with Difficult People

Dealing with Difficult People

Sometime ago, our speaker in our prayer meeting, Bros Flores delivered a powerful talk,tackling the challenge of how to deal with difficult people.

It is easy to love people who are nice to us but how about people
who cause us pain. It is easy to feel happy when we see people
whom we love to see. But it is different whenever the person or the
individual is the one who irritates us.

Tips:

1. Know the person.

Practice empathy. Know where she or he is coming from. From
knowing comes understanding. We cannot simply expect everyone to
behave the way we want them to act or behave. We cannot change them
but we can change the way we resppond to them.

2. Love them.

Do not just depend on your capacity to love but from the love that
comes from God. Love because it is God who first loved us. How can
we also say that we love God if don't know how to love the brothers
and sisters whom we can see.

3. Be God's medium to them.

We are not Napocor, but we are only Meralco's. The napocor is the
source of energy while the Meralco is the transmitter or medium for
that energy to light up our homes. Allow God to use you as a
vehicle for his love to touch the person who you hate.

4. Be a stepping stone.

If you think that you don't have the resources that you need to help
the brother or the sister, then let others do the job. Allow them
to have an opprotunity to grow in maturity as well. Let those who
have the skills needed to do it do the job for you. in other words
delegate. Delegate in a loving way : )

5. Pray.

Often than not, we forget to pray. Prayers work!. Let God's grace
change the heart of the person whom you are praying. Allow also
God's grace to teach you how to forgive and give you the wisdom how
to handle this situation.

6. What if you are the difficult person?

Then pray to be changed by God. Pray for feedback and ask help from
brothers or sisters. Pray for God's love to transform your heart
and the humility to accept your being difficult. Then, change. : )

Bros was a former branch leader of Lingkod ng Panginoon, Alabang. At present, he is a seminarian in the Society of Jesus.